I'm not using this LJ anymore, but keeping the account active for The Enchanted Circle. I have started a new LJ, but it's set to private. All my day to day "stuff" will be on FaceBook :)
I’m tired of being nice.
I seem to be unable to help myself from being helpful. I’m sure pop psychology has some name for this. It’s probably called, AHD (Abundantly Helpful Disorder) or something. Today I resisted picking up a sign out in front of the shop that the wind blew over. I'm still feeling guilty....
Whatever happened to people showing consideration and appreciation to others? Whatever happened to “The Golden Rule”? Nobody ever says “thank you” anymore! Nobody says, "Please"! I don’t do things for a pat on the back, but after almost 40 years of not feeling appreciated, it gets a bit old. And why SHOULD I do things for people? Or businesses? And why am I worried about it in the first place?
Here’s the proverbial “straw that broke the camel’s back”: The other day in a restaurant, a baby’s shoe fell off when a young couple walked by my table. Several people saw the shoe fall off, but they just went back to the business of chowing down and chatting. I, feeling disgusted with the other people for their lack of caring, got out of my seat, retrieved the shoe, and took it over to the young couple. I said, “Your baby’s shoe fell off” as I handed it to the dad (who was holding the baby); he just looked at me, took the little white shoe out of my hand, and dived straight back into the conversation with his wife (girlfriend, baby momma…whatever). They just ignored me, not a “thanks for your trouble”, not even a smile to show their appreciation. I guess I shouldn’t have bothered. I guess I’ll join the ranks of the soulless uncaring.
When I’m at out shopping, I’m always picking things up and straightening things. I am a tad obsessive about things like that, although from the looks of my house or car it would be hard to believe (since Zack was born anyway). Thinking back on this, I can see how people have mistakenly thought I worked at these establishments. Of course, I always tried to help the people anyway! I should get a check from Wal-Mart, Target, Borders, Home Depot and several stores at the mall….
I’m constantly picking up stray packages of food off the floor at the grocery store, or clothes off the floor at the mall, straightening up books at the book store. I used to do it without thought….maybe it made me feel good about myself on a subconscious level (remember…AHD!) Now, well…now I just feel annoyed that the majority of people are so inconsiderate. Why are they so messy? Why are they so rude to leave a mess for store employees? Yeah, it’s their job to make sure the store looks nice…but show some consideration!
A further testament of my slide towards the Dark Side is my lack of sharing. Not objects, although I’ve always been a bit towards the stingy side (because things would come back destroyed, damaged, or wouldn’t come back at all)…but of information. For example, I work in a school, my office is up in the “front office” area….a parent came in and inquired about directions to a place I was familiar enough with to direct them to. I just sat back in my office and didn’t say a thing. Part of me feels terrible about this, but another part does not. The thing is, if I over hear someone talking and go out to assist, I get treated as if I’m being rude and interrupting. So, why bother? Sounds petty, doesn’t it? And it feels that way now that I’m writing it all down. I guess that is one of the good things about journals….
As a nurse, I pretty much experience a TOTAL lack of appreciation for everything I do. I think that is one of the reasons there is such a high turn over in nursing…especially hospital nursing. I could give countless examples in this area. I won’t start though…because I’ll never finish.
This rant is over…b/c it’s already too long and people have lives to live.......